Reading guides
Is he a dry texter or just not interested?
Quick read
A dry texter gives low-effort replies across the board, but still shows interest in other ways. Disinterest looks the same but never moves toward plans, questions, or meeting you. The difference is momentum.
Separate style from investment
Some people text short and still ask questions, follow up, and make plans. Short is a style; one-word answers with no follow-up is low investment.
Watch who keeps the conversation alive
If you are always the one asking and he replies "k", "lol", or nothing, the pattern is doing the talking. Interest usually adds something to the thread.
Test for momentum, not for words
Does he move things forward in real life? A dry texter who plans a date is very different from a warm texter who never commits.
Not sure what your own conversation is showing? See it by the numbers — initiative, curiosity, reciprocity, and more.
Read my conversationFAQ
Is being a dry texter always a red flag?
No. For some people it is just a communication style. What matters is whether effort shows up somewhere else: plans, questions, follow-through.
Should I stop texting first?
If you are always the one starting, pause and see if he initiates. That is not playing games; it tells you the truth about investment.
What should I say to a dry texter?
You do not need to fix his texting. If the ambiguity bothers you, say what you need: "I like consistent contact. Is that something you are into?"
Patterns describe behavior, not people. If something feels unsafe or abusive, trust that before any read.