The pattern library
Name the pattern, see it clearly.
Six patterns that show up in threads over and over. Each page describes the behavior — not the person — with a short self-check you can run on your own conversation.
Enough to keep you hooked, never enough to commit.
Open →The temperature drops a little every week — slowly, deniably.
Open →He pokes to check you’re still there — without giving anything back.
Open →Keeps the door ajar so you stay an option.
Open →The text that shouldn’t have been sent.
Open →Sometimes the read is: nothing is wrong.
Open →Patterns describe behavior, not people. If something feels unsafe or abusive, trust that before any read.