He pokes to check you’re still there — without giving anything back.
Why does he text me then disappear?
Temperature-testing is contact that asks nothing and offers nothing — a “hey” or a reaction to an old story, arriving exactly when you go quiet. It is not the start of a conversation; it is a check that you are still reachable. Reply, and the thread usually goes quiet again.
How it reads in the thread
- Random “hey” or a react to an old story, timed right when you go quiet.
- The message asks nothing and offers nothing — it’s a check, not an invitation.
- Reply, and contact goes quiet again until the next test.
- You stay in orbit while he contributes no real effort.
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